1. There’s a reason schools teach Shakespeare instead of John Green; you make your own life, it’s not written in the stars, waiting to start until you find that person with the perfect smile
2. People are a hell of a lot smarter than you think. Shut your mouth, stop thinking you know everything, and listen.
3. Getting close and being vulnerable is scary as hell, But you know what else it is? Worth it.
4. Reason really is the doctor to love.
5. The moment you feel your happiness being dictated by another person, take a break from them.
6. Take a step back and look around, you have more friends than you think.
7. Growing up is going to happen and it’s going to be tough. Just stay close to those around you, you’re all in it together.
8. If you’re still checking their Facebook/Instagram/tumblr, you’re never going to get over them.
9. Everything seems worse in the morning. Don’t fall for it, it’s deceiving.
10. No need to be so intense all the time. People get tired of swimming in the deep end, sometimes they need a break in the shallow part of the pool.
11. Stop avoiding everything. Get out of bed, get dressed, go to school, go to work. It sucks at first but it’s part of the healing process.
12. If the person makes you feel like shit and you still go back to them, it’s an abusive relationship.
13. Headphones are great, but listen to music aloud every once in a while. Sometimes you need to scream a song so everyone can hear you.
14. Boundaries are a must.
15. You can be a caring person, but you need to be happy with yourself before you try to make others happy.
16. Try and understand other’s intentions and situation before you get angry with them.
17. Tough love is necessary sometimes.
18. You can’t fix people no matter how hard you try. Get this engrained in your mind.
19. Surround yourself with people who will love and support you.
20. Loneliness is lethal and makes you have a distorted view of things.
21. No one hates you more than you hate yourself. Stop being your own enemy.
22. Someone can only hurt your feelings if you allow them to.
23. Getting your shit back in order is five times as hard as it is to mess it all up.
24. Listen to your parent’s advice.
25. Be open to anything and everything. Life isn’t fun when you’re a closed book.
26. Talking about your problems is great, but there comes a point when talking about it becomes dwelling on the past and it drains everyone around you. Know when you’ve hit this point.
27. A lot of people don’t like their shit showing. More people than you know are going through hard times.
28. Distract yourself.
29. Don’t be so easily swayed, a lot of claims out there are not true.
30. Some seasons of your life are harder than others. This too shall pass.
I’m afraid I’m easy to forget.
How can you be afraid to feel? Isn’t fear a feeling? If you’re feeling fear, you’ve felt one of the most negative emotions there is to feel. Everything else should be a piece of cake. Feel good, feel happy, feel healthy, feel loved, feel abundant, feel creative, feel compassionate, feel knowledgeable, feel powerful.
So. Getting compliments is wonderful and everyone should feel beautiful in their own skin. But I get my hair and make up done professionally. For a job. That’s not beauty. That’s make up it’s a curling iron and hairspray. What’s beautiful is inside you. It’s your creativity. It’s your intelligence. Your empathy and your kindness to your fellow man. I could care less about being “pretty” or “perfect” and we should all ask ourselves why in our society that is the “highest” and most common compliment we are paying to our female friends.But let’s put this to bed… Foundation and a blow dryer do not a woman make. Rock on everyone.
The hardest part of practicing is opening the case.
One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t like everyone, everyone doesn’t like us, and that’s okay.
Music And My Future
I’ve recently been very anxious about my future - probably because I get so inspired by things and then I become unsure of my decisions.
I’ve been so focused on this idea of becoming a music therapist and that’s still my eventual goal, but all this uncertainty is making it really hard for me to be confident in my larger goals.
This is the second alternative spring break program where I’ve felt a really strong desire to work with a non-profit. I am so inspired by what they do and I want to be apart of it. But even more than that, I’m still deeply passionate about music. I’ve created this idea in my head that I could come into these organizations that help children who are struggling with mental illness or homelessness and lead a music group and that would be my career. But that’s not necessarily music therapy. That’s more related to music education than anything else. And these organizations are not going to have the money to pay me to do that. It would probably just be me volunteering my time to inspire the families with music. And I would be okay with that, if there was some other way for me to have a career in music.
I’ve also recently become very interested in mental health. I know for a fact that I love working with elderly people and I love working with children. It just makes so much sense to me that I would combine all of my passions into a career in music therapy. But I’m still unsure.
I’ve been so uncomfortable recently telling people that I’m a music major because the first question they ask (after “what instrument do you play” and I hate answering that question too) is “Why?” And I know my answer isn’t the one they want to hear. First of all, a lot of people still think that music is just frivolous entertainment and music majors are just bohemians that are going to struggle their whole lives to make a living. Second of all, no one has ever heard of the bassoon so that makes it even harder for people to understand.
The only thing I know right now is that I love music. That’s all that matters to me. I don’t care about making money (although I know that’s important). That’s not what it’s about for me. I am genuinely passionate about music. I love the way it inspires others. I love the way that it feels and sounds. I love the way it makes me feel. And I love the way it makes me feel when it makes others feel good. I don’t know what’s going to happen in the future. But I do know that right now, my life is brighter and happier because of music. That’s why I’m doing this - not because I’m a seriously talented virtuoso who has been playing violin since I was three. I’m not a singer looking to achieve fame through opera. (Although I do appreciate the good feeling of finishing a choir concert) I just know that I feel like a better person when I am performing or listening to music. But that’s not enough anymore - hence my struggle.